So, in order for you to understand my rant, I'm going to have to give you a brief psychology lesson here. You may be surprised by what you read here as it isn't necessarily common knowledge and is, in fact, counterintuitive.
So, as we all know, girls and guys tend to self-segregate when it comes to peer groups, particularly at a young age. This is one of the most profound psychological findings on child interactions. The main hypothesized reason for this, is that girls and guys have different interactions styles and different styles of influencing others. All in all, males tend to perform more dominance establishing interactions, such as physical and verbal aggression. Girls genereally find this to be distasteful and so don't really enjoy this sort of interaction. This results in the self-segregation described earlier
Because guys tend to interact predominantly with other guys, they really only get practice in this dominant style of interaction. Girls meanwhile are learning how to try to maintain relationships with each other and solving conflicts in a bit more of a tactful way.
Now here is the interesting bit that you want to pay attention to. At some point, as most of us hopefully know by this time, guys and girls begin to interact and have relationships and such. Guys start interacting with girls, and their more amicable means of interaction makes them be like "Oh shit, this is pretty sweet. I like having someone be nice to me instead of exerting their dominance over me all the time, plus, it's so much easier to exert my dominance over her" (We are of course speaking in general terms of interactions here, I am no way saying that women are submissive. Women certainly have other more covert means of getting their way. It is just psychological fact that women rarely use overt means of coercion or dominance exertion.) Meanwhile, women go the opposite direction, suddenly their interacting with individuals who are used to exerting their domiance and using generally aggressive tactics of interaction, the exact reasons they withdrew from interacting with guys in the first place.
The result of this is that guys initially fall in love faster than women do. Shocking eh? Bet you thought that girls fell in love faster, yeah I did too. I thought the me tending to fall for girls faster than they fall for me was just some sort of function of who I was as opposed to a function of my gender. Interesting to find that I'm normal. Well, at least in regards to this subject.
That's all established theory based on empiracal research.
Now, here's the part where people who know all the other stuff already might be interested. Well, I'm actually more interested in hearing a response to my thoughts here. I would wonder about guys who tend to hang out with mostly girls, or girls who hang out with mostly guys. Would the result of such interaction be that girls who hang out with guys would tend to fall in love much faster and that guys who hang out with girls would tend to fall in love much slower? This seems to be the logical conclusion that can be drawn. If girls are being socialized in the male pattern of behavior, they should experience the male consequences and vice versa. Taking this a step further into a possibly controversial realm, what about stereotypical homosexuals? Do gay men who exhibit generally effeminate characteristics fall in love less quickly then men in general? or gay men who do not exhibit generally effeminate characteristics? Do gay women who exhibit generally mas.....You get where I'm going with that question, same thing as with gay men but flipped.
I find this all to be very intriguing and I may have to look into some of this stuff further. Love is probably one of the most intriguing psychological phenomena to tackle, particularly because it's such a daunting task with such a dynamic existence. Neuroscientists claim that love is an effect of chemical interactions in the brain, but that's why neuroscientists are such miserable people...that and the fact that they have to memorize all those chemicals and what all the parts of the brain do ***shudder***
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